I often engage in adventure travel with my son. While we enjoy museums and food tours, we are low-key adrenaline junkies and enjoy the occasional thrill.
We have zip-lined across the Zambezi River. We’ve ridden ATVs across the Sahara Desert and through a forrest in Chiang Mai. We’ve also flown in a helicopter to get a better view of Cape Town. We love snorkeling in the open ocean and riding roller coasters – the scarier the better!
When you become a parent, you’re often faced with the thought of something terrible happening to your child. One minute you can be watching your child be silly or minding your business washing dishes and the next minute a flash of a terrible accident crosses your mind, briefly paralyzing you with fear.
You’re constantly worried about your child’s safety and that can sometimes send you into a downward spiral of catastrophes both real and imagined.
But you move past it. And remind yourself of the fact that in this moment, you and your child are okay and safe.
I’ve been thinking about the recent passing of Kobe Bryant and his daughter Gianna.
While most celebrity deaths don’t affect me all that much, this one hit a little close to home for reasons I’m still trying to sort out.
I talked with the boy this morning about the news. He asked how it happened and when I told him he replied “That would be how I would want to go. I don’t want to die, but if I did, I would want to be doing something I love or with a loved one.”
I smiled and was like “Wow! Me too!”
The thing I’ve learned in my very short life it that time is an unrenewable resource.
The reality of our own mortality and how finite this life is can make us terrified of the thought of our own death. It’s a reason some of us use to crawl back into our protective bubble, shielding us from the what ifs. That fear can be comforting, in a way. The warm cocoon that soothes our worries and anxiety about all of the terrible things happening in this world.
But that unsettling reality and fear of the unknown can also drive us to take action. It can be our reason to live life to the fullest while we can. To have as many adventures as we are afforded in this lifetime.
I choose to dive head first into this life. Not being reckless, but not letting fear be the reason I choose not to actively participate in this life.
Travel and adventure may not be the life for you. Social media will have you thinking that is not okay. It’s totally okay.
But what is not okay is wanting to take that trip, get on that boat, fly in that helicopter and not doing it – for no other reason than a laundry list of fears.
That would be severely unfortunate.